About Me

My name is Penelope.  Welcome to my new blog.  My husband, Julio, passed away suddenly and very unexpectedly in January of 2012.  My world, and that of our two boys, was abruptly turned upside down without warning.  We are still on a journey of healing, but in the last several months I've met a  number of widows.  I wanted to provide a space for widows to share with each other, the things that have helped them on their own journey as well as a place to ask questions that remain unresolved in their lives.  

I am not a lawyer, a financial planner, a doctor or a psychologist, so please consult with the authorities where necessary.  I am simply a mother, was a wife, and now a widow who has been through (and is going through) this.  My intention is to attempt to take what has been a negative in my life and try to make something positive come from it.  My hope is that you will never need my site, but if you do and if the site can make the journey easier, better, simpler.....  then it will have served its purpose.  My goal is to address different aspects of widow-widower hood.  Not simply the grief aspect, but also the every day logistics of adapting to life as a single person.  This is the "virtual" version of the women in Liberia who are there to comfort each other as I mention at the top of the page.  

This site is for both men and women.  It is also for those who are supportive of someone going through a death.  There may be things that apply to loss in general as well.  

I live in the United States, so much of what I say will be of my experience - for example - going to Social Security Administration.  Living in this virtual global "village" as we do today, I welcome comments and suggestions from around the world. 

Please leave comments, suggestions or questions in the "comments" section of any post.  I will do my best to attend to them .... and place the question to the community also.  

One day at a time,
Penelope