A place for widows, widowers and those that support them to find and share helpful, positive information.
A friend of mine who had traveled to Liberia, Africa, shared with me that when a woman is widowed in Liberia, an older widow is sent to stay with the younger widow... to help the younger widow through the difficult adjustment. By sharing our experiences and our strategies - in a positive manner - we can create a similar "virtual" community where we help and support each other ...... as we to adjust. Please feel free to add your positive suggestions in the comments section following each post!
This is from Maureen Hunter. She has the web site Esdeer.com. I find it to be a wonderful, down to earth grief resource, written by someone who has been through it.
One day at a time, Penelope ********************************************************************************************************* We're just about to hit December
and I know for the last few years I just wanted to close my eyes and wake up in
January.
For myself (Maureen) early December is the
anniversary date of my son's death, something that to date has always tinged my
Christmas with a forever sadness. It comes beside all the festivities in the
shops and the bombardment of adverts on the TV and in the letter box. It has
taken me a long time to look forward to a time of year that changed our lives
forever so suddenly, but it's happened. Last year I noticed a shift and this
year much more so.
So for our 6th Christmas this year
there will be a proper tree once more. There will be more decorations, there
will be joyful anticipation and happy moments. Of course they will sit
themselves, as they always do at such times, around the missing and sadness of
the physical absence of someone who has our heart always. And amidst all of that
we will do what we always do, find ways to honour and remember our beloved
Stuart on the day.
It has taken me much to get to this place
and it has not been easy.
Today I'd like to share a series of short
videos I recorded last year about the holidays and what we can do to get through
such a difficult time. If you haven't seen them already I hope they help you in
some small way.