Here are some basic suggestions for the very beginning, but are useful throughout the grieving process..... In everything I write, these are suggestions. Always do what you think is best for you and your
family EVEN if it is different than what I am suggesting.
1 - Sleep ANY time you feel like you can EVEN if it is at odd
times.
2 - Eat as often as you can remember to. If someone offers to bring food - -
let them!
3 - Take things one day at a time..... don't get too far ahead.
Some things will fall into place as time goes by like if one needs to change where to live or their work situation.
4 - With that in mind, try not to make any major decisions in the
first several months.. or even a year if possible.
5 - Choose one or two important thing(s) a day to get done... most
of the rest can wait.
6 - With regard to children - ANYTHING is normal right now and kids
grieve differently than adults. My kids desperately just wanted things to be
"normal." There will be more about this over time.
7 - When people offer help either accept it - or if it doesn't seem
helpful at the moment, I would say, "Thank you, but I don't really know what I
need right now. Would it be ok if I gave you a call when I figure that out?"
That keeps the door open to ask them for something later if need be.
One day at a time,
Penelope
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